Demanding Respect or Commanding Respect Which One Do You Want

Got to give credit where credit is due…was reading an article about respect from Dr. Christian Conte that I just wanted to give you my take and put a little spin on things.

Respect is so important to many people. Some people are so focused on not being “disrespected,” that they will certainly go to wonderful huge lengths to require in some cases praise of respect from others. The idea of respect then comes to be the focal point for people’s lives. Yet why? Is it a feeling, is it something they crave or want to be heard, or is it because they just want to be the man.

Think of who really demands you give the utmost respect too?

  • Moms and dads don’t intend to be disrespected by kids or teens
  • Managers or bosses don’t want to be told anything
  • Gang-bangers have a code on the streets
  • Marriages and relationships on both sides want respect and love
  • Youths don’t intend to be disrespected by other youth
  • Mobsters don’t wish to be disrespected by any individual
Where do you fit in…and move forward with respect

In conclusion, “respect” seems to be in control of everyone that is looking to gain it but are going in the wrong direction to paint a picture for it.

As people, we want to really feel secure, confident and safe in our own skin. We want to really feel secure in partnerships, as well as we wish to really feel physically secure in our world; for that reason, we have actually developed a belief that if we are appreciated, we will be safe.

Strive For Self Security In Different Ways

However, there is a distinction in our method when we strive for security and also when we pursue respect. There is additionally a difference between requiring respect and also trying to regulate it– as well as there are lots of choices to “respect” for the feeling of security..

To demand it actually means “You will certainly appreciate or listen to me!” or otherwise endanger or punish those who do not act according to your dreams, wishes or way of thinking. To command respect is to have others observe as well as admire your actions of their very own will. This is where you want to be instead of using scare tactics, emotional abuse, and even physical abuse.

Coming From A Place Where Respect Is King

Commanding respect is something most people will never reach because they are demanding using the wrong means.

Respect is like a value exchange…give more of it through your actions and you get it back in return 100x over eventually commanding it later on after you have mastered it.

  1. Moms and dads feel in control when their children act right and behaved
  2. Individuals in partnerships feel safe and in control if they think their significant other is not going to leave them(physically or psychologically).
  3. Young people really feel safe and wanted with other young people
  4. Gangsters really feel secure if they believe others aren’t intimidating their lives.
  5. it can go on and on…

We all want to really feel risk-free, confident and appreciated because it is just one of the most primitive human demands. Paradoxically sufficient, however, the more we make every effort to require or demand respect from others, the more we actually jeopardize or destroy our partnerships– with other people. It actually destroys the bigger picture of what you have been trying to do from the get-go.

Now Who Do You Want To Become

The next time you want to be heard or thinking to yourself “this blah blah needs to listen to me or else: consider this at that moment.

Humans, people, co-workers, youth tend to look for pleasure and also want to prevent pain.

Youngsters do not “disrespect” moms and dads by not listening; they simply look for optimal satisfaction it might craving attention, being listened too or however means. Remember you do the same also with your bosses.

If you really intend to feel secure in partnerships, instead of spending your initiatives requiring respect as well as trying to change your partner’s behavior– work to become somebody that your companion intends to be around. Have a little humor, make your partner feel wanted, do small things

People who command respect are people who tend to be the happiest in society, comfortable in their own skin and thus are generally regarded as salt of the Earth usually coupled with a talent, occupation that is respected


If you’re a young person, looking for acceptance go out and find a group that matches your inner feelings being an introvert will only get you around other introverts, try something different and find yourself

If you’re a gangster, ask yourself if you’re actually being used to gain the respect by people that won’t take you to where you want to go. Change that environment and who you look up to.

As opposed to DEMANDING respect, consider searching for the security you’re actually looking for– attempt expressing the pain or insecurities you feel– and also watch your life change before your very eyes. Don’t you think its time to command respect instead of demading it.

Still looking for more insights?

You will get much more further in life my commanding it amongst your peers.

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