Many people try to find many ways to either gain respect from their peers or just wanted to be respected for who they are. It could be at the job, friendships, in a certain industry, or even at home.
Coming from a colorful background in many things here are a few things that made me want to address certain things, and you let me know what you think and where you fit it. There is a huge difference.
To require respect is to tell others, “You will appreciate me!” or otherwise intimidate or penalize those that do not act according to your wishes. To command respect in regard is to have others observe and also appreciate your activities, thoughts and behaviors of their own volition. The underlying need of having respect is feeling secure as well as in control.
Individuals that command respect are people that tend to be the happiest in society, comfortable in their very own skin, and thus are usually regarded as people of the people usually coupled with skill, wisdom, or knowledge in the line of work that is valued. Their competence in a given area implies individuals aim to them for advice etc. Without feeling like being belittled. Individuals that command respect usually are people that approachable and willing to take the time to guide through stories or metaphors in a way that captivates the other person in such a way that is relatable.
KEEP IN MIND: There are many people that SHOULD command respect due to all of the above, yet don’t…factor in jealousy, bitterness, competition, anger issues, a demanding to be noticed can factor in a lot of things.
Individuals who require or demand respect have personal concerns and have actually wormed their way to a higher placement, generally at the cost of someone else. Usually its to look good in front of a crowd, wants to be the life of the party, but little do they know they are only hurting their reputation because of these behaviors.
Lets take a quick look at an example in your workplace. Two different managers with two completely different styles of gathering the troops to get the work done. One does it with an Iron Fist that gets what his personal agenda to make himself look good in front of his superiors. The demanding of respect does not sit well with the employees, no relationships are built and given the choice you will never have a productive relationship except for that brief moment.
Now let us take a look at manager No.2 Same position but let his troops know that he is there for them and willing to sacrifice his own praises from his superiors to make sure he has a willingness to be there for his troops thick and thin. Who do you think you will notify or talk to when stuff goes bad?
To demand respect is to tell others, “You will respect me!” or otherwise threaten or punish those who do not act according to your wishes. To command respect is to have others observe and admire your actions of their own volition.
Most people want to feel safe, secure, and even listened to, its one of the most primal needs that are just in us. But the flip side of that is balancing that or striving for when DEMANDING respect from others, in actuality you’re jeopardizing all relationships with trying to do this exact thing.
The next time you try to demand respect from someone think twice about how you are coming off. If you really want to feel good about yourself and switch over to commanding respect instead of demanding it, or trying to change someone over to what you want.
WORK TO BECOME SOMEONE THAT SOMEONE WANTS TO BE AROUND, to spend time with, to look for your wisdom and carry yourself in a way that makes people want to be around you for who you are…that is the secret to commanding respect.